Help!!! Any ideas on boosting my self-esteem???

I know, stupid question right???? I have noticed over the past 8 years, my self-esteem and the will to look good has gone right down the tubes. I met my husband 8 years ago and I refused for him to even see me without make-up on. Nowadays, my hair goes into a pony tail, I put slippers on and go take care of our 2 year old son (daughter on the way any day now). I understand that over time you feel "comfortable", but that is not it, I miss being the hottie I used to be for my husband. My husband never says a word and still pinches my butt every chance he gets, but I need an ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT. Ladies, please give me a good attitude boost to get me back in the spirit of being a hot mama for my husband. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.

Help!!! Any ideas on boosting my self-esteem???
We'll do it together sistah! I'm feeling the same way. I have 2 children, a terrific husband, and NO GOOD REASON to be a schlump! If you are about to pop, this will be a double challenge for you. I would start right now. #1 priority,(after feeding the little man, or before he wakes up) is some exercise for Mom. Walking or prenatal yoga is about it for the moment. Shower, SHAVE YOUR LEGS, get dressed, for real- you know what I mean. Do simple hair and make-up--but make the effort. A little scent, just to remind you that you are a woman, wouldn't be amiss.


Establish your habit NOW, and make a point of it even after Her Highness arrives. It will help you feel more human. Maybe we should email each other and ask: What did you do for your hot self today? :)





PS Your theme song is, "I'm Bringing Sexy Back" !
Reply:That is not a stupid question. It isn't about how you look for others versus how you feel about yourself. Do you look at yourself as an individual person or as your husband's wife and your children's mother? Women tend to lose themselves as an individual and over time I think we forget who we are. I think it is great that you have a good marriage and kids that you love but you have to want to look good for yourself first. Start doing things just for you. Go to a spa, get a maincure, pedicure etc. I recently started getting them and they make you feel good. Your pampering yourself. It is very easy to get into a routine and feel comfortable. I have been there. I did the same as you. I had enough of it for me so I started wearing make-up again, went tanning, colored my hair, went to spa, and doing activities that I have been wanting to do. I did these things for me and started feeling better and I continue to do it. I got back in the routine of it. Those are things I did. Find out what you want to do and do them. I think back to who I was before I got married when I was an individual person. Being married and a mother shouldn't replace who you are as a individual. It is not selfish to want things for yourself and to do things for yourself.
Reply:YOU ARE HOT NO MATTER WHAT.
Reply:Be whatever for yourself! Do something different! Do something naughty. Cook and serve dinner, or just popcorn in the nude, with your hair done up with ribbons, and have a rose in your mouth or other place! Wear sexy underwear- then stripe it off!