Why do people keep falling for the illusion of love?

First, I am not posting this in depression because of a broken heart. I live happily with a very sweet lady but there is all this nonesense about 'love' and I see it as calculated choices, not affairs of the heart.





Is it my immagination or do you usually see handsome men with beautiful women? Do you often see a handsome well muscled hunks with short fat women wearing coke bottle glasses?





Do you often see ugly women climbing out of the passenger seat of a mans Porsche or Ferrari?





Do guys that like good home cooked food and their slippers by the fire choose homely ladies that like to cook.





Sure when we find the best we can get, the most suitable we can, and we train them to understand us, we are devastated if they have a change of heart, but isn't it more about losing what we want than who we love.





And when we divorce do we actually undergo a complete personality change, or so we just say what we really meant all those years we were pretending and saying 'I love you'.

Why do people keep falling for the illusion of love?
Love is a chemical reaction that occurs in the brain...yeah, it's real but how it feels varies from person to person as well as what it means to them. That's the way of emotion.





If it's not something you desire or believe exists for you, that's fine. You seem content with your life and that's what matters.





It's up to each person to make their life what they want it to be...and I know enough people in love (and have experienced it myself) to know it's out there, no illusion. Whether it's what we should seek/desire or not is debatable.





Yes, I see good looking people with less-than-attractive partners all the time. It proves nothing...what one finds appealing, another may not. Isn't it great we don't all like the same thing? ☺
Reply:i hope never to fall for another trick again!
Reply:Because people are stupider than they used to be and have less self control and reasoning skills. (I say this even though I have, too)
Reply:honey, love will hit anyone who's actually wants it, it only takes a moment... however, these days most people dont want love, or they dont believe in it, thus love wont find them... look walk down any city and look at the couples, notice something, not all of them are in the same crowd, u have too tall with too short, too thin with too fat, too old with too young... and ect, but see the way they smile at each other??? omg u hav to be a dimwit if u questioned whether or not they are in love... now those who are together and look "perfect" well in hs, that was a must, i mean a varisty jock wont go out with the biggest geek on campus, its peer pessure that gets in the way... look i've dated my share of really hot rich guys and low life scums who are poor as dirt and ugly as can be... and i found love with a man who still gives me butterflies and weak knees after 5 yrs, and he's not the cutest, richest, smartest guy i've been with, but he's perfect for me... trust me on love, it hits u when u least suppect it when u are willing to let it come into ur life...
Reply:BINGO! Yes, she deserves you fully! Nothing worse to do to her but leave her "dream" with you by her side, you poor poor man!
Reply:So many questions...





First, as far as the outward appears of couples, I would remind you that people start to look more and more alike as they grow together. They will start to dress more alike, take care of their bodies in the same way, etc. After all, they are probably having more or less the same meals.





As for how people can get divorced after saying "I love you", there are lots of complex reasons. Maybe your partner changed in a drastic way or maybe they just hid a part of themselves that you could never learn to love. Yes, love is not always about mushy feelings and a lot of time it is "work", but I would never consider my husband "the best I can do" because that would imply that I feel I could be better and that if I was better I would get some sort of better man and I don't believe either of those things. I love my husband completely. Yay love :)
Reply:it is human nature therefore we don't have a straight answer to it, but it is up to u to not fall for the illusion of love.
Reply:One thing to always remember is love changes over time, it doesn't stay consistent or maintain the same level it originally started out with.
Reply:Because illusions are transcendental mind process that expose your brain chemical properties respond to a certain stimulus for you to accept things in its finite form and call it love.